Your love is my drug

Love, its one of the greatest, the worst, the most obvious, and the most mysterious of emotions in our arsenal. When you’re in  love, you just know it. And when you fall out of love, there’s nothing quite as depressing . But why do we fall in love in the first place? There must be some evolutionary reason, it serves a purpose. Is our brain drugging us?

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Well first-off let’s discuss love on a chemical level. From what I can tell, the main culprits in this matter are serotonin and Oxytocin. The serotonin patterns  produced from love is much akin to those seen in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. This explains how you just can’t get that loved one out of your head.(1)

Oxytocin is the chemical released during orgasm, and is attributed to long-term love, beyond the “Honeymoon Phase” of passionate love.(2) We all know that these relationships evolve over time, but it is fairly interesting that the chemicals involved actually do change.

But why? Occam’s Razor points to our need to reproduce to sustain the species. But why does the initial “passionate” period of love only last for a year or so? Maybe it is due to the highly dependent nature of humans at birth. The chemical attempts to keep the parents together long enough to get the child out of infant stage. This could be related to the immediate bond many parents (especially mothers) feel for their children upon birth. Tell me your theories.

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The most interesting thing to me is how much Love resembles a drug. When you first taste it, there’s nothing like it. You’ve never been so high in your life. You need more, you need to be around your dealer (loved one) all the time. If you don’t see him/her for a while, you begin to have emotional withdrawals (loneliness, depression, anger). And perhaps the most interesting correlation, you build up a tolerance to it. Hell me and my friends have had to do pseudo interventions over a buddy  not getting over a girl.

I know that sounds silly, but consider it. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you know it has changed, on a chemical level. You still love them, but it’s not the same as when you first met. Maybe this is why people cheat, they’re looking for that chemical rush they’ve lost somewhere along the way.

So what can be done? Well that’s a bit above my pay grade, but I have some ideas. The most obvious is keep it fresh. Do new things, exciting things. Take a dance class together,  make a comic book, try rock climbing, take a great cooking class, do P90x. Your relationship is like a body. You’ve got to keep it active, or problems will hit you down the line.

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Beyond that, spicing up your sex life never hurts. Part of this is both of you staying in shape. I know its shallow, but hey, we’re conditioned. Also when you’re in good shape it opens up some… possibilities in the bedroom. This is also a chance to open up to one another, and express your desires. Just don’t make any shocked faces when they tell you their fantasies. Seriously.

Shocked Shepard

So what do you think? Has your  brain been throwing you love rock since you were a teenager, or do you have a different view on love? Let me know.

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11758796 (1)
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3782434 (2)

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A Torrid Love Affair

“A soldier will fight long and hard for a bit of colored ribbon.” – Napoleon Bonaparte

War, war never changes, and it seems the gender that wages it doesn’t either.Up until the 20th Century, females almost never served in their nation’s military. There are of course exceptions, such as Joan of Arc, and other brave women who history has forgotten, but by and large, the battlefield has been a place where men killed men. So my question is, do men love war?

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“I ain’t no punk”

Gun violence has become a big issue lately. With multiple school shootings, rampages, and all sorts of other armed crime, it’s no wonder. In 2009, according to the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime, 66.9% of all homicides in the United States were perpetrated using a firearm. And the largest portion of this comes from gang violence.

Anyway, I’m not here to talk about whether stricter gun control should be implemented. Personally I think the 2nd Amendment is important, it just doesn’t seem that way until you need it one day. I don’t think the problem is the guns, it’s the people who commit the act. And the society that caused them to go down the road they are on. (this includes you and me.) But that’s a discussion for another day.

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Serious Business

Animation plays a large role in modern entertainment. Family Guy, South Park, Pixar, American Dad, Venture Bros., The Simpsons, Bob’s Burgers, and many others.  But why is it that televised animation is a medium reserved only for comedy in western society? The one exception to this possibly being South Park, which mixes in some topical social commentary. Do we correlate animation with children, or is it just a lack of desire on the part of the viewer?

To me, the highest level of excellence in western animation is Pixar. Not just for their technical skills, but for their ability to craft powerful tales enjoyed by all ages. Reminiscent of the great Disney films of the previous generation, such as Lion King, they channel powerful themes in a way even a child can understand.

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A Nation of Children

It should serve as no shock that the United States Government is currently shut down. Sorting through the convoluted sea of opinion and spin is remarkably tiring and often leaves you more unsure than when you began. I don’t plan to delve into this, but you can voice your opinion on the matter below.

What I wish to discuss is the juvenile way this has been handled, perhaps by both sides. The Republicans have flipped  the board in a tantrum, and the Democrats refuse to help pick up the pieces. “But we didn’t make the mess!” We didn’t ask who made the mess, we just want it cleaned up.

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Luckily our media provides a wide array of thoughtful opinions on the matter, full of rational solutions!

How did it get like this? I mean sure, there will always be passionate disagreement, and this isn’t the first shutdown, but is there anyone who thinks this will be over anytime soon?

But to put the blame on our elected officials is erroneous, because it is us that put them there. Either by choice or apathy. So often people vote for candidates who support ideals and programs in direct opposition to said voter’s benefit. Is it the accepted vernacular of doublespeak that prevails in higher office? Is it a direct effect of our educational system? Or do people just lack the motivation to research? Tell me what you think.

This is what I mean by a nation of children. A large portion of us never graduate into adulthood. As a member of a democracy, it is the responsibility of an adult to take part in the process. This doesn’t just mean voting, but researching candidates, and the issues of our times. But who has time for that? Between a career (or two), kids, the stress of debt, and what’s on tv; its very easy to lapse into a state of complacency.

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